Wednesday, November 10, 2010

The Pedophile's Guide to Love and Pleasure = Potential for Disaster

Violence against children in any form is a major public health concern.The Federal Bureau of Investigations as well as the National Institute of Health report that there are approximately 400,000 sex offenders living in the United States and that number keeps on climbing.  At the same time, rates of kidnapping and human trafficking continue to increase. 

According to the 2007 US Department of State Trafficking in Persons Report, it is estimated that more than 1.2 million children under the age of eighteen are trafficked each year and among children trafficked, the two most common types of enslavement pertain to sexual exploitation or drug trade. 

I contend that the controversial book The Pedophile's Guide to Love and Pleasure can be very dangerous in the hands of a sex offender or an individual prone to violence. While I doubt that the book outwardly suggests that pedophiles should act on their feelings, both the author and amazon should consider that this book may serve to validate and encourage the very urges that can sometimes lead to this horrific form of violence.   


Below are statistics on sex offenders in the United States: 



  • There are approximately 400, 000 registered sex offenders in the US alone.
  • Convicted rapists report that two-thirds of their victims were under 18 and 58% of those said their victims were age 12 or under.
  • In 1994 only one third of the victims said that they reported being raped to a law enforcement agency.
  • In 90% of the rapes of children under 12 years old, the offender knew the victim.
  • 8 out of 10 rapists are released prior to trial.
  • 61% of violent sex offenders have a prior record.
  • 8 out of 10 sexual assailants reported that their victim was under 18. The median age of victims of imprisoned sex offenders was 13 years old.
  • 24% of those serving time for rape and 19% of the ones serving time for sex assault were on probation at the time of arrest for rape or sexual assault.
  • 28% of released rapists were rearrested within 3 years and charged for a new violent crime.
  • 8 % of those are charged with another rape.
  • Released rapists were found to be 10.5 times as likely as non-rapists to be rearrested for rape and those who served time are found to be 7.5 times as likely as those convicted of other crimes to be rearrested for a new sexual assault.
  • The typical child sex offender molests an average of 117 children, most of who do not report the offense. 
Source: National Institute of Mental Health, 1988.

Tuesday, November 2, 2010

Pumpkins Pumpkins Pumpkins!

Now that Halloween is over, you may find yourself with more pumpkins than you know what to do with.

But they don't have to go to waste. If you haven't carved them, consider boiling the pumpkin meat and turning it in to a puree to be used in snacks, baked goods (some recipes below), or sneak it in to mac and cheese.

Pumpkin puree freezes great and can be used throughout the year. I even have a friend that mixes it in to her yogurt. I was skeptical at first, but I have tried it and it is very tasty!

Save the Pumpkin Seeds
Pumpkins are a great source of beta carotene, dietary fiber, calcium, and the seeds are considered a protein.
But if you don't want to eat the seeds, why not save them?  Place the pumpkin seeds on a paper towel, let them dry and then you and your children can plant them together in May. Planting the pumpkins for next year can be a great way to get your kids excited about eating vegetables in general and teach them basic concepts in science.

Here are a few recipes I enjoy. And check out my own bread pudding recipe too, in the next post.


Pumpkin Bisque: ( I like to add a diced apple and a pinch of curry and I use a can of fat-free evaporated milk instead of heavy cream, cuts on the fat and adds a unique flavor for grown-ups)
http://www.cooks.com/rec/view/0,1848,157160-245207,00.html

Dairy-Free Super-Healthy Pumpkin Bread:
http://dairyfreecooking.about.com/od/breadsbakery/r/pumpkinbread.htm

Pumpkin Bread:
http://allrecipes.com//Recipe/downeast-maine-pumpkin-bread/Detail.aspx

Pumpkin Cookies:
http://allrecipes.com//Recipe/pumpkin-cookies-i-2/Detail.aspx

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Pink Santa!

   If your family celebrates Christmas and breast cancer awareness, Pink Santa is the craft for you. He makes a great holiday gift from the kids and looks great on a desk or in a foyer. And you can fill him with treats!

Materials:

2 small clay pots
½ yd white marabou
1 bottle pink acrylic paint
1 bottle desired flesh color acrylic paint (Santa doesn't always have to be white!)
1 pipe cleaner for belt
White foam
Pink pom pom for nose
1 pair of googly eyes
Glue
Favorite candy or treat
Small piece of pink foam

Directions:


Take the two pots and glue the bottoms together. Let them dry.

Paint the bottom pot pink and the top pot the flesh color.

Cut out two ribbon shapes from the pink foam and set aside.

Cut out mustache shapes (think ceiling fan paddles).

Glue on googly eyes, nose, and beard.

Tie pipe cleaner around for belt.

Glue the pink ribbon on Santa’s lapel or the brim of his hat, and on belt.

Fill with treats!

Pink Smoothies


photo by The Style PA
Great for celebrating Breast Cancer awareness or just whenever you and your kids want something healthy and pink!

1 cup of plain or vanilla yogurt
1 cup strawberries
1 tsp vanilla
1 tbsp honey
6 ice cubes

Throw in to blender and your done! Also makes a great on-the-go breakfast!

Talking to Kids About Cancer

Breast cancer is a sad and horrible thing, which is why I have been very careful with the words I use with my children. I do not get in to specifics, and I focus on the positive. Simple phrases like “people that are sick,” “ a sad illness,” are more than enough for some age groups and have worked for my girls, who are all under five. 

photo by allspice1
As they grow older they will undoubtedly have more questions and I will be ready, but for now I feel it is important to try and find a harmonious balance between keeping informed and involved while protecting their innocence. Others parents may choose a different route, and I encourage you to follow your instinct since you know them best, especially if your child has already experienced the loss of a loved one. 

9 Things to Do for Breast Cancer Awareness Month

photo by mimitalks
According to the American Cancer Society, every two-to-three minutes a woman is diagnosed with breast cancer

I am a mother of three girls and have watched loved ones battle with the disease.

Some have lost and some continue to fight. And so we have chosen to make breast cancer awareness a part of our family.

Beyond the significance of helping a great cause, consider it an excellent way to encourage physical activity and introduce the concept of cancer.

Every weekend during the month of October, we do one activity that recognizes breast cancer awareness month in a fun and creative way.

Here are 9 family-friendly breast cancer awareness activities:

1)    Participate in The Race for the Cure or other breast cancer family walks and runs.  In general races and walks have different heats with more options for stroller-friendly distances and terrain. The month began with the Race for the Cure and we celebrated our fifth year of participating!

2)    Make awareness t-shirts. Outline the classic “awareness ribbon” shape on a white t-shirt and have the kids go wild with pink fabric markers and paint.


3)    Pink Bake Sale! Hold a bake sale in your neighborhood or at work or school.  Try turning your favorite goody pink with natural food coloring or have your kids decorate the packaging with pink stickers and ribbons.

4)    Honor someone who has died from cancer. If you’ve lost someone to breast cancer have your kids paint an unfinished wooden frame ($1 at most major craft stores) and put up a picture of them.

5)    Honor someone living with cancer. If you know someone fighting breast cancer, honor them on your race/walk t-shirt. If you think they would rather keep their illness private, try just using their initials or have your kids draw something that reminds them of that person, like grandma’s favorite flower.

Pink Santa!
6)    Light a pink candle to remember or support someone with breast cancer. Round up the family and light it together one night after dinner.

7)    Donate your hair to an organization that makes hairpieces for cancer patients.

8)    Pink smoothies for breakfast! (see recipe)

9)    Pink Santas for Christmas! (Get an early start on Christmas crafts. See instructions)

Thursday, October 14, 2010

Tie-Dye Napkins

These are a lot of fun to make and a cheerful, colorful addition to your child’s lunch! 


You will need:


10 White Cotton Napkins (Target brand is only $5.99 for a 10-pack)

RIT dye packs in your child’s favorite colors

Rubber bands

Disposable squirt bottles

GOGGLES and GLOVES for your little ones!

            Directions: 

            1) Prepare the dye according to the package directions.

            2) Dampen napkins. Take white napkins and place rubber bands according to the instructions for the design you and your child like best and squirt on desired colors.   

            3) Then line dry and put through the wash once (alone with no clothes!) and dry in dryer.